RANT...po'd...etc -

[CarolinePar]

ok I didn't want to bring too much of my personal life into the forum but I need to vent or it'll eat me up inside -
I have a kid.
I'm married to her father.
She has two grandmothers and one grandfather - my husband's dad.
Mine died back before Katrina.
Anyway - later this month she is going to visit her grandparents who above all else - don't take piddly crap and "I can't" or believe in spoiling thier only grandchild. She is treated as old as she is including no cartoons, random excess of pointless treats, tec.
It's my mom - she was up here in the early summer to watch her "move on" from her last class to her new school and took us all on a trip to Canada. She then left - less than a week from her daughter and oldest grandchild she hadn't seen since early spring - to go spend time with her boyfriend.

While she did go back to New Orleans to be there when my older brother bought a house she then left again to spend time with, you guessed it - her boyfriend once again.

So why am I pissed?
She does not understand why I am letting my only child go to these "bad" grandparents and she can't have her alone for a few days (weeks?) before school starts. Beacause he's right - if we were to send her down she'd say why not a few more days, etc.
Why do I sound like the evil, ungreatful daughter?
She had all of July to ask her to come down. Didn't.
And only until I shared this info did she cry foul for not seeing much of her this summer.

WTF?!

[LolliePop]

Caro I know why you're venting. Family can be a total pain at times. But you've made your point now it seems (if you told your mother she had all of July). Now I'd just do and say absolutely nothing more about it and carry on with your proposed plans... see if it happens again. If it does and you get further complaints you simply state that you laid your ground rules previously. If people don't wish to comply with them that's their problem.

[CarolinePar]

thanks Lollie

I just hate feeling guilty for standing up for my family...and even myself :reddisgust:

[meezookeewee]

thanks Lollie

I just hate feeling guilty for standing up for my family...and even myself :reddisgust:

You shouldn't feel guilty. At all. Your child is the most important thing in your life, and you clearly have her best interests in mind. I think you need to put your foot down and tell your mother that if she wants to see her grandchild again, she needs to shape up.

[CarolinePar]

I just posted the "Love is.." passage on her Facebook page

now I just have to wait....

I miss our talks ;(